Hello all,
As I have studied my pain and how it affects others, I have learned that it is equal in all directions. “Like Pressure, Pain is equal in all directions.” – Alter Pain- When you hurt, everyone around you hurts.
1. No one likes to see a loved one hurt. It hurts our hearts to watch you struggle with pain.
2. When you hurt, it is easy to take everyone down with you whether you mean to or not. “Pain is like pressure and it will find the path of least resistance.” – Alter Pain – You must always remember that your pain can be a cancer to those who are in a weaker place than you.
3. Leveraging pain to get attention is dangerous. It causes and spreads a psychological cancer on both sides (you and others). It is actually considered a selfish, immature and irresponsible act.
4. Digesting others pain is a brave and noble act of servanthood. Make no mistake though, you must always be stronger foundationally to handle other peoples pain. Make sure that you are right in yourself, strong, emotionally held together and have God as your source of strength. Without this foundation, you are aiding and bedding weight that you alone cannot handle.
5. Helping others and offering advice- This can be a very slippery slope. Before you say anything or offer any wisdom, you must be right with yourself and God, otherwise stay away as you will only hurt and hinder the healing process of the hurting person. To have certain wisdom, experience and a strong history of challenging and overtaking pain is crucial in order for you to gain credibility and offer a successful resolve for anyone. You may or may not be the right person to help others in specific conditions. However, it is still your job to direct that person away from you and to someone who is better fitted for Gods work and ones specific needs.
“Make no mistake; pain affects us all at one time or another. Our pain also affects all of those around us.”
Love,
-Alter Pain
